--- title: "[文章翻譯] 我希望早點知道的 103 條人生忠告" description: Traditional Chinese Translation of '103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known' from KK (Keven Kelly). image: https://i.imgur.com/rEgXJIm.png author: Hsins tags: Advice, Life, Tip robots: breaks: GA: disqus: hsins-hackmd --- {%hackmd @themes/notion %} # 我希望早點知道的 103 條人生忠告 <img class="cover-image" src="https://i.imgur.com/rEgXJIm.png"> > **原文連結**:[103 Bits of Advice I Wish I Had Known](https://kk.org/thetechnium/103-bits-of-advice-i-wish-i-had-known/) > **原文作者**:[Kevin Kelly](https://kk.org/) ## 前言 今天是我的生日,我今年已經 70 歲了,至今我也算學到了一些可能足以幫助到其他人的東西。在過去幾年,我都會隨手記錄下一些自發性的建議,而今天出乎意料地想說的話特別多。所以接下來是我給予大家的一些生日禮物:我希望早點知道的 103 條人生忠告 <details> <summary>原文</summary> Today is my birthday. I turn 70. I’ve learned a few things so far that might be helpful to others. For the past few years, I’ve jotted down bits of unsolicited advice each year and much to my surprise I have more to add this year. So here is my birthday gift to you all: 103 bits of wisdom I wish I had known when I was young. </details> ## 建議 1. 在 99% 的時間裡,真正關鍵的時刻是當下。 About 99% of the time, the right time is right now. 2. 除了你自己以外,沒有人會真的記得你擁有些什麼東西。 No one is as impressed with your possessions as you are. 3. 千萬不要替你不希望成為的人工作。 Don't ever work for someone you don't want to become. 4. 好好經營 12 個愛你的人的關係,因為這 12 個人的價值遠比 1200 萬個喜歡你的人更重要。 Cultivate 12 people who love you, because they are worth more than 12 million people who like you. 5. 不要繼續犯著同樣的錯誤;嘗試去犯新的錯。 Dont keep making the same mistakes; try to make new mistakes. 6. 如果你停下來聆聽音樂家或街頭藝人的表演超過一分鐘,那麼你欠他們一美元。 If you stop to listen to a musician or street performer for more than a minute, you owe them a dollar. 7. 「但是」之前的任何話都不算數。 Anything you say before the word “but” does not count. 8. 當你原諒其他人的時候,他們不一定會知道這件事,但你自己卻會被治癒。寬恕不是我們給予他人的東西;而是我們給自己的餽贈。 When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves. 9. 禮貌不花費任何成本。在上完廁所之後,把馬桶座放下;進電梯之前,讓裡面人先出來;把購物車推回到商場指定的位置;借了別人的東西,讓它以比借到的時候更好的狀態歸還(比如填充耗材或是清潔物品)。 Courtesy costs nothing. Lower the toilet seat after use. Let the people in the elevator exit before you enter. Return shopping carts to their designated areas. When you borrow something, return it better shape (filled up, cleaned) than when you got it. 10. 無論什麼時候,看到爭論基於兩個對立面進行時,要找到第三個面相。 Whenever there is an argument between two sides, find the third side. 11. 效率被過度高估,懶散則被過度貶低。有規律地安排休息日、休假、度假、小憩、漫無目的地散步和暫停時間對任何類型的最佳表現都至關重要,最好的職業道德需要具備一個好的休閒倫理。 Efficiency is highly overrated; Goofing off is highly underrated. Regularly scheduled sabbaths, sabbaticals, vacations, breaks, aimless walks and time off are essential for top performance of any kind. The best work ethic requires a good rest ethic. 12. 當你在領導他人時,真正的任務是要創造出更多領導者,而不是更多追隨者。 When you lead, your real job is to create more leaders, not more followers. 13. 私下批評,公開讚揚。 Criticize in private, praise in public. 14. 人生的課程將以它們需要的順序出現在你面前。任何你需要掌握的課程其實伴隨著你,當你真正掌握了一節課之後,下一節課就會出現。因此如果你還活著,這就意味著你還有課程需要學習。 Life lessons will be presented to you in the order they are needed. Everything you need to master the lesson is within you. Once you have truly learned a lesson, you will be presented with the next one. If you are alive, that means you still have lessons to learn. 15. 學生的責任是從老師身上學會一切,老師的責任是從學生身上學會一切。 It is the duty of a student to get everything out of a teacher, and the duty of a teacher to get everything out of a student. 16. 如果在一個遊戲中,獲勝變得過於重要,那麼我們可以修改遊戲規則以便從中獲得更多樂趣。而修改規則本身就可以成為一個新的遊戲。 If winning becomes too important in a game, change the rules to make it more fun. Changing rules can become the new game. 17. 當你跟投資人要錢的時候,他會給你建議;而如果你跟他要建議,他會給你錢。 Ask funders for money, and they’ll give you advice; but ask for advice and they’ll give you money. 18. 生產力反而經常分散我們的注意力,不要試圖尋找更快完成任務的方法,而是把精力放在根本不想停下來的任務上。 Productivity is often a distraction. Don’t aim for better ways to get through your tasks as quickly as possible, rather aim for better tasks that you never want to stop doing. 19. 及時支付你的欠款給賣主,員工,承包商,下一次你他們會第一時間跑來跟你合作。 Immediately pay what you owe to vendors, workers, contractors. They will go out of their way to work with you first next time. 20. 我們對自己說的最大的謊言就是:「我不需要把這些寫下來,我會記得的。」 The biggest lie we tell ourselves is “I dont need to write this down because I will remember it.” 21. 作為一個有意識的生物,你的成長將以你願意接受的令人不舒服的對話的次數來衡量。 Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have. 22. 自信地發言就像你是對的一樣,仔細的聆聽就像你是錯的一樣。 Speak confidently as if you are right, but listen carefully as if you are wrong. 23. 方便的測量方法:雙手展開與肩膀平齊,此時從左手指尖到右手指尖的長度就是你的身高。 Handy measure: the distance between your fingertips of your outstretched arms at shoulder level is your height. 24. 努力(鍛煉、陪伴、工作)的一致性遠比數量重要,沒有什麼可以擊敗每天堅持做的小事,這比偶然做的事情重要得多。 The consistency of your endeavors (exercise, companionship, work) is more important than the quantity. Nothing beats small things done every day, which is way more important than what you do occasionally. 25. 藝術創造並不自私;它是為我們其他人而作的。如果你不好好創作,你就是在欺騙我們。 Making art is not selfish; it’s for the rest of us. If you don’t do your thing, you are cheating us. 26. 永遠不要詢問一位女士她是否懷孕了,等她自己告訴你。 Never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Let her tell you if she is. 27. 你必須具備的三種能力:在確認一件事情能運作之前永不言棄的能力,在確認一件事情無法繼續下去時放棄他的能力,以及信任那些能幫助你辨別二者的人。 Three things you need: The ability to not give up something till it works, the ability to give up something that does not work, and the trust in other people to help you distinguish between the two. 28. 公開演講的時候,經常性地做出停頓。在開始敘述新的內容之前暫停一下,講完你覺得重要的內容之後暫停一下,把暫停作為讓聽眾吸收內容的緩衝時間。 When public speaking, pause frequently. Pause before you say something in a new way, pause after you have said something you believe is important, and pause as a relief to let listeners absorb details. 29. 「準時」從來都不存在,你要嘛遲到要嘛早到,這是你的選擇。 There is no such thing as being “on time.” You are either late or you are early. Your choice. 30. 請教一位你崇拜的人:他們的幸運轉折往往來自於跟主要目標無關的彎路。所以擁抱這些彎路,畢竟對任何人來說,人生都不是一條直線。 Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone. 31. 在網路上尋找正確答案的最好方法,是發表一個明顯錯誤的答案,然後等待其他人來糾正你。 The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you. 32. 獎勵好的行為比起懲罰壞的行為所帶來的結果要好上十倍,尤其對象是小孩和動物時。 You’ll get 10x better results by elevating good behavior rather than punishing bad behavior, especially in children and animals. 33. 花費與撰寫郵件內容一樣的時間來雕琢郵件標題,因為很多時候那是人們唯一會讀的東西。 Spend as much time crafting the subject line of an email as the message itself because the subject line is often the only thing people read. 34. 不要等待暴風雨自己過去;要在雨中跳舞。 Don’t wait for the storm to pass; dance in the rain. 35. 當雇主在查看求職者的推薦信時,一般不太願意或被禁止說出負面評價。這時候你可以留言說:「如果你覺得這位求職者很不錯的話,請通知我。」如果他們沒有回覆的話,那就是負面評價。 When checking references for a job applicant, employers may be reluctant or prohibited from saying anything negative, so leave or send a message that says, “Get back to me if you highly recommend this applicant as super great.” If they don’t reply take that as a negative. 36. 使用密碼管理工具: 更安全、更簡單、更好。 Use a password manager: Safer, easier, better. 37. 接受教育的一半作用是學習哪些東西可以被忽略。 Half the skill of being educated is learning what you can ignore. 38. 設定一個荒謬目標的好處是他的上限足夠高,即使最後失敗了,以一般的標準衡量也可以算是某種程度上的成功。 The advantage of a ridiculously ambitious goal is that it sets the bar very high so even in failure it may be a success measured by the ordinary. 39. 認識自己的一個好辦法是,認真地反思會惹怒其他人的每一件事情。 A great way to understand yourself is to seriously reflect on everything you find irritating in others. 40. 住飯店的時候,將所有的東西都放在可以看得到的地方並堆在一處,而不要放進抽屜中,這樣一來在離開時就永不會遺留任何東西。如果有些東西需要放在一旁的,比如充電器,那你可以多放兩件較大的物品在旁邊,因為相較於忘記一件東西,你不太可能一次忘記拿三件。 Keep all your things visible in a hotel room, not in drawers, and all gathered into one spot. That way you’ll never leave anything behind. If you need to have something like a charger off to the side, place a couple of other large items next to it, because you are less likely to leave 3 items behind than just one. 41. 否認或轉移别人的讚美是不禮貌的。帶著感謝接受,即使你認為自己根本不值得。 Denying or deflecting a compliment is rude. Accept it with thanks, even if you believe it is not deserved. 42. 始終閱讀紀念碑旁的說明。 Always read the plaque next to the monument. 43. 當你獲得某種成功的時候,你可能會有種自己的能力不配這個位置或是自己是個騙子的感覺。難道我是在騙人嗎?但如果你創造了某種只有你獨特的天賦與經驗才能做到的事物,那你就絕對不是一個騙子。你是注定要做這件事情的。做好只有你才能做的事情,這是你的責任所在。 When you have some success, the feeling of being an imposter can be real. Who am I fooling? But when you create things that only you — with your unique talents and experience — can do, then you are absolutely not an imposter. You are the ordained. It is your duty to work on things that only you can do. 44. 你在低谷時做了什麼事情,比起在順遂時做了什麼事情更為重要。 What you do on your bad days matters more than what you do on your good days. 45. 做那些對人有益的事情。 Make stuff that is good for people to have. 46. 當你打開一罐油漆時,無論你有多麼小心,衣服一定會沾上一點,即便只是很小一點。所以記得穿合適的衣服。 When you open paint, even a tiny bit, it will always find its way to your clothes no matter how careful you are. Dress accordingly. 47. 在旅途的行車路上讓小孩子乖乖聽話的辦法:捎一袋他們最喜歡的糖果,每次只要不乖就扔一把出去。 To keep young kids behaving on a car road trip, have a bag of their favorite candy and throw a piece out the window each time they misbehave. 48. 你無法讓聰明的人只為了錢而特别努力地工作。 You cannot get smart people to work extremely hard just for money. 49. 當你不知道應該為了某件工作給對方支付多少費用的時候,你可以問他「你覺得給多少是合適的?」,他們通常會給出適當的報價。 When you don’t know how much to pay someone for a particular task, ask them “what would be fair” and their answer usually is. 50. 所有的東西有 90% 都是垃圾。如果你覺得自己不喜歡歌劇、浪漫小說、抖音、鄉村音樂、素食和 NFT,那麼你可以嘗試看自己能否找出不是垃圾的那 10%。 90% of everything is crap. If you think you don’t like opera, romance novels, TikTok, country music, vegan food, NFTs, keep trying to see if you can find the 10% that is not crap. 51. 你如何對待那些對你毫無幫助的人,將成為評價你的標準。 You will be judged on how well you treat those who can do nothing for you. 52. 我们往往高估一天所能做的事情,也低估了十年所能完成的事情。只要給十年時間,奇蹟也能達成,長期堅持能累積大量的小成就並攻克大問題。 We tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, and underestimate what we can achieve in a decade. Miraculous things can be accomplished if you give it ten years. A long game will compound small gains to overcome even big mistakes. 53. 感謝那位改變了你人生的老師。 Thank a teacher who changed your life. 54. 你無法說服一個人接受一個他自己也無法說服他自己的理念。 You can't reason someone out of a notion that they didn’t reason themselves into. 55. 你最好的工作將是你沒有資格的工作,因為它總你捉襟見肘。因此,去申請那些你沒有資格勝任的工作。 Your best job will be one that you were unqualified for because it stretches you. In fact only apply to jobs you are unqualified for. 56. 購買二手書,它們和新書有著一樣的文字,圖書館的書也是如此。 Buy used books. They have the same words as the new ones. Also libraries. 57. 你可以成為任何你想成為的人,所以讓自己成為那個早點結束會議的人吧。 You can be whatever you want, so be the person who ends meetings early. 58. 一個智者曾經說過:「在你開口之前,先讓你的語言經過三道門的檢驗。第一道門是問你自己『這是真話嗎?』第二道門是『這是必要的嗎?』第三道門是『這是善的嗎?』」 A wise man said, “Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?” 59. 走樓梯。 Take the stairs. 60. 你支付給某樣東西的錢,實際上是它標價的兩倍,因為你還需要付出額外的能源、時間和金錢來安裝、學習使用、維護、修復以及丢掉它。不是所有的價格都打在標籤上,真正的付出是標價的兩倍。 What you actually pay for something is at least twice the listed price because of the energy, time, money needed to set it up, learn, maintain, repair, and dispose of at the end. Not all prices appear on labels. Actual costs are 2x listed prices. 61. 當抵達飯店房間時,記得看一眼緊急出口在哪裡,這只需要一分鐘。 When you arrive at your room in a hotel, locate the emergency exits. It only takes a minute. 62. 「我現在該做什麼?」的唯一有效回答是先找出「我想成為什麼人?」的答案。 The only productive way to answer “what should I do now?” is to first tackle the question of “who should I become?” 63. 在一段超過平均水平的時間裡,一直保持平均水平的回報,也會產生超凡的結果。買入並一直持有。 Average returns sustained over an above-average period of time yield extraordinary results. Buy and hold. 64. 對粗魯的陌生人表現得特别禮貌是一件令人毛骨悚然的事情。 It’s thrilling to be extremely polite to rude strangers. 65. 一個不太聰明但溝通能力很好的人,是可以做得比很聰明但不善溝通的人更好。這是一個好消息,因為提高你的溝通技巧要比提高智力容易得多。 It’s possible that a not-so smart person, who can communicate well, can do much better than a super smart person who can’t communicate well. That is good news because it is much easier to improve your communication skills than your intelligence. 66. 偶爾被騙是信任所有人的一個很小代價,因為當你以最大誠意信任其他人的時候,他們通常會給你最好的對待。 Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best. 67. 藝術是你無論如何都能超然避世的東西。 Art is whatever you can get away with. 68. 為了讓你的孩子獲得最好的成長,你應該只花一半的錢給他們,但花兩倍的時間陪他們。 For the best results with your children, spend only half the money you think you should, but double the time with them. 69. 購買你家鄉或所在區域的最新旅遊指南,你會在每年的旅遊中學會很多。 Purchase the most recent tourist guidebook to your home town or region. You’ll learn a lot by playing the tourist once a year. 70. 不要排長隊等著吃某樣很有名的東西,因為幾乎沒有哪樣出名的食物值得這份等待。 Dont wait in line to eat something famous. It is rarely worth the wait. 71. 想要快速了解一個剛認識的人的真實個性,讓他們使用一個超級慢的網路,然後觀察他們。 To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, move them onto an abysmally slow internet connection. Observe. 72. 達到世俗成功的良方:做點奇怪的事情,培養自己獨特的奇怪習慣。 Prescription for popular success: do something strange. Make a habit of your weird. 73. 要成為一個專家,記得進行備份,至少有一份實體備份與一份雲端備份,每個備份不要少於一份。當你遺失了你的資料、照片與筆記時,你願意花多少錢把他們找回來呢?相較於後悔,備份一定是代價更低的選項。 Be a pro. Back up your back up. Have at least one physical backup and one backup in the cloud. Have more than one of each. How much would you pay to retrieve all your data, photos, notes, if you lost them? Backups are cheap compared to regrets. 74. 不要相信你認為你相信的一切。 Dont believe everything you think you believe. 75. 發出緊急信號請使用「三次原則」:三次大喊、三次喇叭、或三次口哨。 To signal an emergency, use the rule of three; 3 shouts, 3 horn blasts, or 3 whistles. 76. 你在餐廳會點吃過的好吃的菜,還是嘗試新的?你會製作已知銷售良好的東西,還是嘗試新的?你會與新朋友約會,還是和已經認識的人確立關係?探索新事物與找到後在其中深耕的的最佳平衡是:1/3。將 1/3 的時間花在探索,2/3 的時間花在耕耘。隨著年齡的增長,花時間去探索新事物會越來越難,因為那似乎沒有什麼效率,但嘗試做到 1/3 吧。 At a restaurant do you order what you know is great, or do you try something new? Do you make what you know will sell or try something new? Do you keep dating new folks or try to commit to someone you already met? The optimal balance for exploring new things vs exploiting them once found is: 1/3. Spend 1/3 of your time on exploring and 2/3 time on deepening. It is harder to devote time to exploring as you age because it seems unproductive, but aim for 1/3. 77. 真正的好機會不會在寫著「好機會」三個字。 Actual great opportunities do not have “Great Opportunities” in the subject line. 78. 在你被介紹給别人的時候,看著對方的眼睛數到四。這樣你們都會很好地記住對方。 When introduced to someone make eye contact and count to 4. You’ll both remember each other. 79. 在你思考「我那好用的美工刀在哪裡?」或者「我那好用的筆在哪裡?」時,紀錄下來。這意味著你還有不好用的美工刀或筆,把他們都丢掉吧。 Take note if you find yourself wondering “Where is my good knife? Or, where is my good pen?” That means you have bad ones. Get rid of those. 80. 當你在某件事情卡住了的時候,嘗試向其他人描述你的問題。通常你只需要簡單地把問題描述出來,答案就會自然呈現。把「解釋問題」作為你解決問題的一部分。 When you are stuck, explain your problem to others. Often simply laying out a problem will present a solution. Make “explaining the problem” part of your troubleshooting process. 81. 在購買水管、延長線或者梯子的時候,選擇那個比你所認為需要長度更長的。通常那個就是正確的尺寸。 When buying a garden hose, an extension cord, or a ladder, get one substantially longer than you think you need. It’ll be the right size. 82. 不要和舊的事物鬥爭;直接建設新的。 Dont bother fighting the old; just build the new. 83. 你只需要向大家讚揚你的團隊做得很好,他們就會做出遠超預期的成就。 Your group can achieve great things way beyond your means simply by showing people that they are appreciated. 84. 當一個人跟你提起人類歷史的巔峰一年,那端時間所有的事情都極其美好,然後就開始走下坡路。這一年永遠是他们 10 歲的時候 ── 這也是人類個體的巔峰。 When someone tells you about the peak year of human history, the period of time when things were good before things went downhill, it will always be the years of when they were 10 years old — which is the peak of any human’s existence. 85. 你跟那些惹怒你的事物一樣大。 You are as big as the things that make you angry. 86. 當你對著聽眾們演講時,眼神注視著某幾個人比掃描全場更好。你的眼神會告訴在場的人,你是不是真的相信你所說的東西。 When speaking to an audience it’s better to fix your gaze on a few people than to “spray” your gaze across the room. Your eyes telegraph to others whether you really believe what you are saying. 87. 習慣遠比靈感來得更加可靠,要為培養習慣而努力。不要關注身材變好的樣子,要專注成為那個永不缺席訓練的人。 Habit is far more dependable than inspiration. Make progress by making habits. Don't focus on getting into shape. Focus on becoming the kind of person who never misses a workout. 88. 當你跟别人談判的時候,不要把目光瞄準蛋糕中最大的一片;要瞄準如何把蛋糕做大。   When negotiating, don't aim for a bigger piece of the pie; aim to create a bigger pie. 89. 如果你重複今天你做的事情 365 天,那一年後你會成為你想成為的人嗎? If you repeated what you did today 365 more times will you be where you want to be next year? 90. 你只能看到其他人的 2%,别人也只能看到你的 2%。所以調整好自己的 98%。 You see only 2% of another person, and they see only 2% of you. Attune yourselves to the hidden 98%. 91. 你的時間和空間都是有限的,移除、贈送或者直接丟棄那些在你的人生中不再帶來幸福的東西,把時間與空間留給那些能帶來幸福的。 Your time and space are limited. Remove, give away, throw out things in your life that dont spark joy any longer in order to make room for those that do. 92. 我們的後代將創造令我們驚歎的成就,但其實只要我們有足夠的想像力,他們會創造的部分東西,用今天的材料和工具就已經能實現了。所以,要想得更大一點。 Our descendants will achieve things that will amaze us, yet a portion of what they will create could have been made with today’s materials and tools if we had had the imagination. Think bigger. 93. 為了豐厚的回報,請對你完全不感興趣的事物保持好奇。 For a great payoff be especially curious about the things you are not interested in. 94. 專注於方向而不是目的地,畢竟有誰能知道命運的終點呢?只要保持一個正確的方向,你終會到達你想到的地方。 Focus on directions rather than destinations. Who knows their destiny? But maintain the right direction and you’ll arrive at where you want to go. 95. 所有的突破在一開始都是看起來很可笑並荒謬的,事實上如果它在一開始看起來不夠可笑和荒謬的話,它也稱不上是一種突破。 Every breakthrough is at first laughable and ridiculous. In fact if it did not start out laughable and ridiculous, it is not a breakthrough. 96. 如果你借給別人 20 美元,如果他因為不想還錢而從此消聲匿跡,那麼這 20 美元花得有價值。 If you loan someone $20 and you never see them again because they are avoiding paying you back, that makes it worth $20. 97. 模仿別人是一個很好的開始,但重複你自己則是一個令人失望的終點。 Copying others is a good way to start. Copying yourself is a disappointing way to end. 98. 找工作協商薪資待遇的最佳時機是在他們說要請你了之後,而不是之前。從這時候開始那就成了一場膽小鬼的博弈,雙方都等著對方先開口報價,此時你的優勢就是可以讓對方先開出價碼。 The best time to negotiate your salary for a new job is the moment AFTER they say they want you, and not before. Then it becomes a game of chicken for each side to name an amount first, but it is to your advantage to get them to give a number before you do. 99. 與其讓你的人生避免意外,還不如直接瞄著它們而去。 Rather than steering your life to avoid surprises, aim directly for them. 100. 如果你使用信用卡租借汽車,請不要購買額外的保險。 Dont purchase extra insurance if you are renting a car with a credit card. 101. 如果你對於一個主題的意見可以根據另外一個主題的意見預測得出,那你可能陷入了某種意識形態的掌控。如果你認真審視你自己的意識,你的結論其實是無法預測的。 If your opinions on one subject can be predicted from your opinions on another, you may be in the grip of an ideology. When you truly think for yourself your conclusions will not be predictable. 102. 爭取在死前破產。在你死掉之前,把你所有的財產交給你的受益人;這很有趣而且很有用。 把所有的財產花光。 你的最後一張支票應該支付給殯儀館,它應該會被退回。 Aim to die broke. Give to your beneficiaries before you die; it’s more fun and useful. Spend it all. Your last check should go to the funeral home and it should bounce. 103. 防止變老的主要預防措施是保持驚訝。 The chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished. <!-- Widgets: Likecoin --> {%hackmd @Hsins/widget-likecoin %}