Basics of The Dating Game – An Introduction

# Basics of The Dating Game – An Introduction <img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/1247026226/photo/head-shot-portrait-smiling-african-american-businesswoman-offering-handshake.jpg?s=612x612&w=0&k=20&c=mWTnUs_NC-TWd7pv9gX5jHIBpD00iEBYCcDoqyOmMv0=" alt="" width="900" /> I got this email: <blockquote> Being new to using game, I am at a point where I have a lot of information but a lot seems advanced. I was hoping you could write an article on things as a step by step process to make progress in learning game. Or at least point me to something that is a concise process to help me learn game. </blockquote> It inspired me.  I’ve decided that starting January Second, I’m going to throw up weekly posts on Game Basics.  It’ll probably be a two month thing, or so and each post will end with a challenge to get you out there and practicing.  I can see how the information that a lot of us throw out there can be very advanced and a bit challenging, so hopefully these posts will give you some direction and a starting point.  I would suggest that you buy a copy of Bang before then and thumb through it, as it will help you immensely between now and then. As an added bonus, I’m going to go through the challenges with you and report in on my status, and I want you all to feel free to anonymously comment (or be a man and comment with your name) on your progress! With all of that said and done, let’s begin! <h2>Basics of The Game – Inner Game</h2> One of the hardest parts of The Game is getting your Inner Game on lock.  When you first start your adventures in the Red Pill lifestyle, you will be excited and ready for anything.  As your first night of approaches wears on, however, you will find yourself quickly disillusioned, feeling that you have been cheated and that this “game” bullshit isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. For guys like and myself, it all seems so easy.  We want it, we go out and get it.  Supposedly, you know all the things we know (or so we say) – so why isn’t it working for you? What you’re having, in that moment you’re giving up, is a crisis of inner game – and the answers to all of your questions is a shockingly simple one. <div id="attachment_648" class="wp-caption aligncenter"> For every meaningless Carrot Top reference, something precious dies. 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So there I was, sitting at a bar alone like a chump, drinking my beer and thinking about giving up all of this game bullshit.  Behind me was an 8-top, nothing but college girls, giggling and laughing and drinking.  I watched two gym-rat betas walk up to the table boldly (I was impressed) and immediately offer to buy shots. I laughed to myself, knowing it wouldn’t work. "8 Chicks! Bro! That's like... 6 Chicks Each!" The moment you buy them drinks you go from being a man to being an ATM, I thought, watching them drop about $50 (I figure $5ish per shot, 8 girls, 2 guys = 10 people) on shots and take them with the table.  They stayed with the girls and tried to flirt for a grand total of five minutes, during which they were ignored.  It dawned on me that, lacking any real game, these guys decided to buy shots as a way into the table’s social circle and then shot-gun the table, figuring they had each a 25% chance of taking a girl home. Shotgunning the table wont work because, even if two girls want to break off from the group (which none of them do), the other 6 will cock block relentlessly.  Naturally, the two guys got shut down and they walked away.  A few minutes later, one of them came back and said, “I’m going to try this again!” (his actual opening line) and then proceeded to buy them all shots ($50 again because he brought his buddy back to do a shot with him).  The buddy left after the shot, and chump drink-buying beta literally worked his way around the table, hitting on each girl until finally settling for shamelessly macking the fat one. Eventually he asked her to separate from the group and she declined saying, “I have a boyfriend.” At this point another girl chimed in and said, I shit you not, “Yeah, we all have boyfriends.” The women excused themselves from the table, having decided it was time to leave the bar after this awkward moment.  As they walked out an (obvious) alpha, who was sitting at a table with another guy, grabbed the hottest girl (IMO) by the wrist as she walked by.  They had hushed conversation for a grand total of half a minute, during which he escalated kino, before she finally sat on his fucking lap and gave him her number. Boom. She spent another five minutes sitting in his lap and flirting before her friends finally dragged her away. You know what I realized watching that guy? I knew all of the right steps.  I knew every move to make. My problem wasn’t that I didn’t know how to game girls.  My problem, one I suspect a lot of you share, was that I would get rejected by a girl and instead of seeing rejection as a stepping stone, I reacted negatively and let it affect my mindset.  I had a problem with my Inner Game.  I didn’t believe that I was an Alpha, so I didn’t act the part and my game suffered. The first Basic Game Principle – INNER GAME. Until the next post on basics hits the blog in Januray, I want you to spend the next two weeks working on your Inner Game.  Yes a lot of the stuff we discuss is a bit more advanced or in depth, but realize that if you understand what you’re reading, then you can apply what you know. <h1>Goals</h1> Your goals for the next two (right? Two-ish) weeks are: <ol> <li>Open at least 15 sets.</li> <li>Get at least 5 phone numbers.</li> <li>Change your eating habits to be healthier (I’ll be going paleo)</li> <li>Begin working out every week (3x a week, if you need a number).</li> </ol> Those are all perfectly reasonable, especially with New Years parties coming up.  Post your results on the next Basics of The Game post.