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# Asexuality


So, while we have had some discussions about this and how sexual attraction for me / us works, this article does bring some things into perspective. 

>The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (AVEN), for example, describes some asexual people as ‘sex-favourable’, which is an ‘openness to finding ways to enjoy sexual activity in a physical or emotional way, happy to give sexual pleasure rather than receive’. 
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This is the first bit that catches my attention. In all my relationships, I've been okay with pleasing my partner ( which could be what lead to the Vishakha fiasco ) and have almost always enjoyed it better than receiveing pleasure. I've never even been very enthusiastic about the later - which some have interpreted as me not being interested with them. Despite this, I am very 'sex-favourable' as the article mentions.

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There's this bit that I don't entirely agree with though. While I do not always want to have sex with people, it's not like I don't find them sexually attractive - I'm having some trouble putting this thought into words. Is it possible to find people sexually attractive but still not want to sleep with them? I look at people (women and men) and often appreciate their beauty, even in sexual ways. I'd love to do things _other_ than sex, such as photographing them. ( I've induldged in a lot of photography, and it's my favourite activity when a relationship is going well. The partners like it as well.:) Sometimes when I am sexually attracted to a person, I want to give them a nice massage? 

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> You still love each other and think each other are pretty and cute. Still cuddle and touch affectionately, happy kisses and look forward to spending time with them. Still do favours for them, and go out on dates. Still dream about a life together, and argue about who was supposed to do the dishes.
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_hahaha_! Yes, asexuality does not include intimate kisses and touch. There's nothing I can add here, I agree.

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