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# Lessons I learnt before turning 20.

Neither I am a fan of writing all these motivational or reflection blogs, Nor I have acheived anything significant through all these years on planet Earth. This time, I want to write to remind myself of what I have gone through over the time. The lessons I learnt over my time on Earth, may sound silly for many of you, but you know what I learnt it the hard way, I too laugh at the way I learnt them sometimes. One may not agree with what I write, I undestand.

1. Most people hear what they wanted to. Very few understand what you say.
2. Not everyone have gone through the phases you went. They can't fit in your shoes. Communicate clearly and effectively at every moment. (I know, I suck while communicating, as I speak vague most of the times.). This also means, speak to various people in various ways, based on your interactions, their intellectualliy. One way of communicating never fits for all.
3. Not everyone you raised, will have the same shared goals on every aspect. Though people nod with you, time reveals the direction. 
4. You will be the average of the people you are surrounded with. Surround yourself with ambitious people. Sometimes, you need to handpick people into your close group.
5. Having strong relations with influential people eases things out, be it at a college level or at international level. Life of people in deep state is entirely different than life of the 8 billion homo sapeins on earth.
6. No matter what your situation is, work your ass off.
7. Stay humble towards everyone, no matter how big you are.
8. Always remember those ones, who are with you in your tougher times, who believed in you when no one did, who encouraged you to go for better though they are not obliged to. I am here, because of many people supporting me and my family, several times.
9. Live in the moment. The only time you can cherish is the present. 
10. Believe and embrace technology.
11. The moment one detatches from the real world happenings, is the time they died morally. Staying in touch with real world happenings and doing unique and great things day-by-day, keeps you young. (observe a few world leaders, leading in their 80s and 90s and older people in rural areas esp to get what I mean).
12. Never think whatever we are working on is the greatest piece of shit one can work. But, try to work on the greatest piece of shit one can work.
13. Stay happy to be proven wrong and take bold steps. Befriend people with complimentary skills.
14. Relationships, care and love matters a lot. After having many futile relationsips(with people or so called friends) and a love affair, I am reluctant towards making new bonds. You know what, I am wrong and I am happy with this. Relationships(here I mean any), may go wrong anytime, sometimes the fault may be us, sometimes the others, sometimes no one are at fault, situations played the game. 
15. Time only reveals loyalty. Finding loyal people is the hardest thing, I have came across over my time. One can easily find the best people across domains, but not loyal people. Make sure, your group comprises of more people loyal to you. And you stay loyal to most people in the group. 
16. Karma.
17. Never let a single person know, who you are at your core. Leave it for people to figure you by themselves. 
18. Never dissapoint your parents, keep them happy, no matter what. The only time I react with anger is when my parents are dissapointed. Most of the times I go for vengence is for my parents.
19. Some times say the shit out on faces, no matter how ready people are to hear that.
20. Be the leader you want to be. 
21. Think before taking any crucial decision. Never listen to anyone ever, when the decision is a high stakes one. Go with your gut feeling. You may fail, you are the only person responsible. You may win, you are the only person responsible. Be incharge of your life, at crucial moments.
22. Tough times come and go. Same with good times.
23. Choose a partner not for their beauty, but choose for their intellectualiy. Choose someone, who will stay with you in every freaking crucial moment. And stay frekaing loyal and stay with them, whenever you are needed. Most of the time is spent with your partner, after certain age. Always look for someone, who are ambitious at their life and have the ability to do what they wanted. Aim for a higher life together. 
24. With age, High chances are your friends/close circle remains constant or decreases. 
25. Turn setbacks into the silent time for improving the beast in you. 
26. Improve your memory, try to remember as many fucking things as possible. 
27. Stick to your core principle everytime. Only violate them, when it is very very very necessary. 
28. We tend to ignore red flags from our closest ones.
29. Stay disciplaned, calm, composed. 
30. Have clear intentions and outcome for every task you get involved. Don't go for abysmal things mid way. 
31. If you have high standards set, let others working on it know the standards you are expecting. 
32. Never argue, smile and leave. When its time to Fuck them, fuck the hell out of them. Rest is peace.
33. Never decrease your standards for anyone.
34. Maa Chuda, Jo karna h vo karlo. Ganta kisiko matlab padega. 