# The Choice (Trans Day Of Visibility 2023) > -Kilo @KiloCheetah Ok, there *is* something I want to make more visible. The narrative is that we've always been trans, and discover sooner or later this maybe-hidden truth of our inner selves. That we realize something immutable about ourselves, and stop fighting it. That's the Ur-trans-story. I've had wishes and dreams of being a girl since long before it would have been shorthand for "woman". I didn't hate my body, didn't hate my life. But I dreamed of life on the flip-side, unseriously, but frequently. Boy-me was cooler than he knew. He did rad things, had awesome friends. (also hella ADHD, get that checked bro) I don't regret him, and I don't erase him. I used to be a boy, and he is part of my history. Sorry if that makes pronouns a little tricky when telling stories about me. :) We'll get used to it. I read a blog once where the (cis but with-it) author muses that "maybe some day people will just transition because they want to, and not just out of dysphoria." Hi, I *am* that future. We're here. Maybe they'll call us "third-wave trans" or something. But I don't care what people call us, as long as the right people find out about us, and are offered this new truth: "You can just... be a girl" Was I trans? I didn't match the stories I heard. I don't think life's about finding *the one* answer, *the one* truth, it's about finding answers and truths that work well *for you*. There are many ways to untangle the same knot, many solutions to the same set of constraints. Stop looking for the perfect answer. If you throw out all the traditional stories, and just ask, "do I want it?", what's your choice? I am the canvas and the brush and the artist who paints her. I *chose* transition. I bet on this new adventure. I could, it turns out, just choose, so I did. My artpiece is me, and I'm painting my life now like never before. :heart:
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11/11/2023
Kilo's Coffee Recs! (Fancy light-roast)

(I try to avoid Amazon links. Try to support coffee-focused online stores, such as https://new.seattlecoffeegear.com. Buy direct from the manufacturer where possible)

8/16/2023
Pimax Silicone Protective Cover: Installation and Removal

I couldn't find anything when searching for a how-to for removing the silicone cover, which came pre-attached on my ebay purchase, so here's me giving back! Tools: (tiny) #3 or 5/64" flathead screwdriver Even thinner pin/pusher, like a paperclip or #1 1/32" screwdriver The silicone cover attaches by looping over the hinges where the hard plastic "head strap" attaches to the HMD display. That means that install and removal both need to detach the head strap from the display. On the Pimax 8KX, these hinges are ~3cm (~1 inch) long, and the pivot pin is what we're unscrewing and pushing out to detach. Unscrew each pin and push them free with the paperclip or tinier screwdriver to detach the display from the strap.

1/4/2023
Raid Awareness is a Learned and Practiced Skill

(Retrieved by Dakra 2020-09-02 via https://web.archive.org/web/20190805085507/http://iam.yellingontheinternet.com/2014/01/29/raid-awareness-is-a-learned-and-practiced-skill/) Posted on January 29, 2014 by Hamlet Italicized quotations throughout are from my old raid leader Sebudai, well-known for his efforts to teach his raiders to be better at playing WoW. I’ve written many WoW guides over the past years, largely covering the details of min/maxing a particular class, but I always knew I was addressing a narrow slice of what makes a good raider. While there are reasons that players who know the nuances of perfectly optimizing their class’s output and ability use are prized, even they are no substitute for a raider who excels at the most important skill of all: not dying. Volumes have been written on how to do good DPS, healing, or tanking. If you raid or want to raid at an intermediate or high level, I imagine you have long immersed yourself in that discourse already. There are many reasons why existing WoW guides, forums, and discussions are largely about optimizing those roles. They are the primary way players are measured by themselves and by raid groups. Large parts of them can often be solved with math, leading to simple and easily implemented results. But most important, I suspect, is a widespread impression that I hope to refute in this post: that your awareness and survivability in raids is a part of who you are as player and cannot be changed.

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