# **THE NICE GUY**

There comes a time in life, when we must choose, prioritize ourselves or the many others out there. You’ll come face to face with such situations time and time again as you keep on growing. Most of the time it’s an easy choice really, depending on where we are in life of course, but it’s usually us who end up complicating things for ourselves. We usually go out of our way just to be tagged as “the nice guy”, in return we’re handed a badge and a cookie for the effort.

Even though sometimes we just know that we might not live up to the promise of ours, we know we’re not capable of being the savior here. Yet, we decide to participate and give it our all, because we don’t wanna be tagged as the bad guy in someone else’s story.

Alas, quite soon enough, we just have a failed task in our hands or maybe just an average result, a result which doesn’t even make much of a difference. On top of that, we contrive some extra hurdles for ourselves, which then end up slowing us down in our own path.

I believe there’s both good and bad when it comes to selfishness. Simply put, “good selfishness” is when you choose to prioritize yourself, your needs and your routine first. Making sure that you yourself don’t have to face any hindrances when it comes to helping another. Also, when you know that the task at hand does not fall under the line of skills in which you specialize and are an expert in. Yet, you still decide to “give it a try” just because you’re the “yes-man”. Chances are, a direct NO would’ve helped out the person even more. You could’ve just simply linked the person up with someone else, someones who’s the perfect “man for the job” maybe?

The bad type of selfishness should be a no-brainer for us all. It’s the type of people who just do it all for themselves. Even if they are capable and are the perfect candidate for the job, chances are, they won’t even bother to step up. They love being under the spotlight, especially after taking that spot quite forcefully from another. It’s always about them, I’d say a bit of narcissism is always in action there. They can never take no for an answer. And if you do say no, then you automatically become the enemy or simply “the hater” in their lives. The word “hater” it’s so common nowadays and there’s surely a reason behind it. Why? Take a guess maybe, you’ll know why it’s becoming more commonly used in most people’s lives haha.

All I really want to say is, that no matter who or how you were in the past. You could’ve been the most giving and most caring out of the bunch, or maybe you were the most selfish and callous one, the type of person who couldn’t care less about others. Whatever or however your past may have been, when the time comes, and you surely will know when it’s time. You’ll have to choose between what’s right and what’s wrong, prioritizing yourself and putting your own life first. It all may sound very selfish, but if you want proper growth, then a tad bit of selfishness is much needed in life. And trust me when I say this, that tad bit of selfishness is sufficient and it surely will go a long long way.