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# Self-Pity: My Take
*But why does everything bad happen to meee?*
# Definitions
### Mine
#### 10/4/23
Crying and whining, complaining about something or life in general instead of doing something about it or accepting it like an adult

### Google's
excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one's own troubles.

# What the Blue Book has to say
I'll get back to you when I have started to read it

# Quote That Might Save Your Life
> Poor Me! Poor Me! Pour me another drink!

To me this means that I will find a reason to be sorry for myself and use that as an excuse to drink, use, slide back into addictive behavoirs which will then lead me to drink or use.

An example from my life would be when I had decided that this time would be my last (one of many, but it was the first time in years I decided to change and recognize the harm I was doing) but that time would lead to a situation where I was violated. I used that as a reason to binge-, day-, work-drink for the next two and a half years. Or when I dropped out of college I felt [depressed](/XBSvWRI8SLiXpPmzNL0daA), [crushed](/T4JpMgTiSy2qjeXmpe44rA), [hopeless](/3peIQfL3Scu8kHnSbD7FVg), and like I was a failure.

Instead of making any moves to either work on my position in life or examine the reason why I didn't (and still don't, this is one of the things on my '[In Progress](/uxs1ZqQFR86Rv6Cw9qBHEA)' list) feel like I could live a fulfilled/fulfilling, productive, meaningful life working retail, I drank while working my dead-end retail job that I ended up loving. I loved the people there, the right kind of pressure, the feeling that I was making a difference, and the fact that I got to keep work at work.

*[I will:](/LOjtRNvgQXK59E4Ka_5uDA) have more respect for my employer, my coworkers, and the people around at my next job*
