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# ACCEPTANCE
People around whom you feel the most comfortable will make you uncomfortable, no matter how connected you are, how close you are. There will be people around whom you will feel completely full and at the same time you feel empty. There will be a stage when you will not be getting angry anymore for what's happening with you. You start to get disappointed. But again there'll be a moment when you know you'll be disappointed yet again so you become okay with this. So you dont get disappointed anymore. In the back of your mind you knew that this was coming anyways. So you just shut yourself up. But there will always be a trigger to something. You know something ain't good for you but can't find the reason. But finding a reason is itself a reason. So by this you keep avoiding the triggers. 

See you cant control things, similarly you cant control people. You cant control what they say or what they dont say. You cant even control if they lie to you. You cant make them say things they are hiding. You cant make them choose you. You would be knowing that they are doing such but you cant even stop this from happening. You can't change them by loving them. No matter how much you love them, what not you do, you simply cant change them. And its not your fault to think about. You did your part and if it is not reverted back to you, then simply accept it. You gotta accept that some things are not upto you, even most things are not upto you. What is upto us is the way we react and handle things. 

One of the things I have learnt over the time that acceptance is the key. Acceptance will set you free. How tough the situation is, how hard it is to let it into your system, you gotta accept it.But saying to do something and actually doing that are completely different. It's not easy to accept things. There will be a tiny part in you which will be optimistic and force you not to accept but rather than being optimistic, sometimes you gotta be realistic. The false hope will hurt you every moment. When you start accepting things there will come a phase of "ifs and buts". When you will be thinking about "if you would have done this, this may happen", "if you would have put more efforts maybe then things could have gone your way". But no, trust me they will not. Things those aren't for you will never come to you even after your nth effort. You will be getting signals. No matter how bad you want to hold on to things, they will slip away. You cant control things. You can only influence them. Despite of your efforts things will go wrong. That doesnt mean your efforts are waste. There are things which you have to let go. Right there. Delaying it will only increase the pain, will no way numb it.


