# 生存指南

## Pre-school
### School selection
* School Ranking
* Location
* Might not be an imprtant factor after Covid
* More about life style preference: reach out to alumni
* Program
* Content
* Ask: what do you want to learn there?
* Does the time spend in the program help you reach the goal?
* Common case: some of the international students' goal is to find a job right after school due to Visa. In this case, if you are in an one-year program and the courses are packed, you might not have time searching jobs.
* Length
* Internship
* Tips
* Write down your goals, and breakdown
* See more: Principles by Ray Dalio, section: decision making
* Collect information from Alumni and trusted people
* List out factors
* Eliminate unknown factors (too far or not in control)
* Weigh them
* Make decision

## At School

## At Work
### Managing up
#### Regular check-in
* What you need from your manager?
* Decision
* Advice
* Help
* Whay my manager need to know?
* PPP (problem, plan, progress)
* Great questions
* What can I be doing that's most helpful to you right now? (what's on your manager's mind?)
* How should I prioritize that?
* Do you see anything I'm missing?

### Presentation
* What does your audience know?
* What do they want to know?

### Communication
* radical candor
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## Goal Setting
* Long term
* Align with interests, values, and passion
* Can do -> want to do -> want to do the most
* "Life if too short to do what I have to do, it's barely long enough to do what I want to do"
* Five steps
* 制定明確目標
* 具體指出問題
* 診斷問題，找出根本原因
* 區分近因與根本原因
* 設計方案
* 徹底執行
* 仔細檢查犯錯模式

## Decision making
1. List out poeple to consult
2. List out scenarios and identify open questions
3. Collect info and weigh it
4. Eliminate unknown future factors
5. Make decision

* 猶豫時，選擇改變的那個
* 回頭看時，了解到我已經做出當下最好的決定
* 專注現在，沒有最棒的決定，不會所有人都開心。
* 讓現在的決定變得更好

## Mindset
* 從廣義“成功”收斂到個人幸福
* 成功的定義來自探索 找尋興趣（Soul, Director: what keeps u up at 9 pm）
* 成功是一連串的機遇 (Outlier)
* 不是不做事情，別忘了10000小時（outlier)。但我們需要放在心裡，做好跌倒的準備（積極心理學）+任何情緒都是正常的反應（諮商師）->幸福是來自你知道你有解決困難的能力(積極心理學)
* 完美主義（積極心理學）就是害怕跌倒
* 專注現在：把時間縮短

## Relationship
* 當一個情緒過濾器（聆聽就是最好的安慰）
* 避免說“我能理解”與提供解決方案（除非對方要求），而是說“這些情緒很正常”並鼓勵對方說出情緒與想法

## Reference
* 為自己再勇敢一次
* LinkedIn: communication
* Positive pPychology Harvard