# Relationship Status (Example)

In the [default approach to relationships](/K-tR0jLWROyscKo0EJf7LQ), the notion of a relationship status tends to signify availability in terms of the structure of one specific relationship (married/ de-facto/ single).

None of these options apply to me because I have multiple [*intentional*](/4IcMkedvTwiVQoiXXxqHmw) relations while living [solo](/Zb7h6FegSz2KIHHmul8TuA#Solo) where what constitutes each relationship is co-created. However, just because I cultivate multiple relationships doesn't mean I'm always available for exploring new connections.

Therefore, I tend to offer general guidance on what a new aquaintence might expect from me if seeking additional connections. This type of guide dates quickly, but I've found it useful all the same.

*Shared as an example of [personal interaction guides](/ZnZEZxVPRxGXazPRPUBUrw?view) within the [Intentional Relationships Toolkit](/vbm_M2anSiWsDhJkVY6BgQ?view)*.

### ~2019

I am committed to co-navigating ongoing-connections in various kinds of intentional relationships. I am also invested in contributing to the various partially-intersecting communities I feel at home within.

All my relationships start with a conversation. This interest isn't always obvious; I can be reserved in groups and need to build up courage to initiate even basic conversation. As such, I especially enjoy getting drawn into individual conversations that explore topics in intricate detail. I also like gently meandering discussions that follow tangential associations and can continue across multiple conversations.

Given my existing commitments I am not actively seeking out new connections. Nonetheless, I tend to respond well to other people taking the initiative in ways that are respectful (and don't come across as entitled to my attention/interest/time, etc.,). For example, I am likely to welcome invitations to interact where:
* you have questions about the things I find interesting and want to be given too much info about those things.
* you have expertise in an area I've expressed interest and you want to help me learn more about that specific thing.
* you have some constructive criticism to provide on something I've created for public use.
* we share a mutual connection to someone I care about and you would like to have a direct-line of communication with me.

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###### tags: `meta-communication` `personal-examples` `intentional-relationships`

Date created: 2020
Version: 3.0
Created for: [Resources for Intentional Relationships](/@IntentionalRelationshipsToolkit/Syicq5TaL)
Attribution: created by [E. T. Smith](https://hackmd.io/@Teq/Bio) on unceded lands of the [Wurundjeri people](https://www.wurundjeri.com.au/).
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