# Please refer to me as...

> I'm writing to request that you refer to me as Ari, Caleb's Dad, or by using the pronouns ‘they/them/theirs/themself' going forward.
>
> My name is Ari - while I have previously responded to Arianna, Ari better reflects my sense of self. Likewise, I now use the non-binary pronouns ‘they/them/theirs/themself'.
>
> When referenced in relation to my child, I am going by typically male parental terms, including ‘Dad’ and ‘father’. While usually associated with a specific gender, parental terms carry many other associations that are valuable for non-binary parents. For me, ‘Dad’ fits best with my gender experience.
>
>Thanks in advance,
>Ari
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*Adapted from private communication, shared with permission, as an example of [personal interaction guide](/@IntentionalRelationshipsToolkit/SkAQJnn6U) specific to changing names, pronouns, and parental terms.*

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