# Couple Privilege

Our society privileges the idealised notion of (romantic) couples in a way that negatively impact those who are [aromantic](https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/myths-about-aromanticism/), single (whether by choice or circumstance), or function as a solo-person participating in multiple relationships.

For example, the [default approach to relationships](https://hackmd.io/@IntentionalRelationships/DefaultView) tends to reinforce the culturally entrenched priority, and measure of value, given to couples by society - both in public perception and legal status. These social and legal frameworks create such as web of associations that successful coupling is often seen as a milestone in the process of being seen as a “grown up”.

## Resource List
The following resources are intended to help us interrogate our assumptions around the concept of the 'couple' unit.

- [Couple privilege 101](https://polysingleish.com/tag/couple-privilege/)
- On [the tyranny of coupledom](https://www.ucl.ac.uk/news/2020/nov/opinion-its-time-end-tyranny-coupledom)
- [Couple privilege and the ecology of relationships](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/love-without-limits/201307/couple-privilege-and-the-ecology-intimate-relationships)
- [Being in a couple doesn't necessarily make you an asshole - but it can](https://solopoly.net/2013/02/05/couple-privilege-having-it-doesnt-necessarily-make-you-an-asshole-but-it-can/)
- [How to be a kick-ass friend even while in a couple](http://christinegarvin.com/couple-privilege-singledom-and-ways-to-remain-a-kick-ass-friend/)
- [How to avoid being a jerk to your single friends](https://www.bustle.com/articles/109178-how-to-avoid-being-a-jerk-to-your-single-friends-just-because-youre-married)
- [What single women want coupled-up friends to know](https://www.huffingtonpost.com/helene-tragos-stelian/what-single-women-want-married-friends-to-know_b_7911772.html)
- [Not everyone wants to be part of couple!](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201310/solo-polyamory-singleish-single-poly)
- [Amatonormativity Sets Harmful Relationship Norms For Us All](https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/04/amatonormativity-expectations/)
- [Not Lonely. Onely.](https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/podcast-startpoint/solo/e/77673943) a podcast exploring the laws (including taxes and social security laws), housing discrimination, and social predjudice against single people (in the U.S.)

## Next Steps:
- See more [Additional Resources](/@IntentionalRelationshipsToolkit/ByEXLSip8)
- Return to the [Overview of Resources for Customising Intentional Relationships](https://hackmd.io/@IntentionalRelationships/Overview).
- Explore the full [List of Contents](https://hackmd.io/@IntentionalRelationships/ContentsPage)

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